12 Steps to Mindful Aging

A sacred path.
A soulful guide.
Celebrating life's most meaningful chapter.

Patricia Herrmann Conroy and
Marguerite Herrmann Sexton
Authors, Sisters and Lifelong Best Friends


About our book: 12 Steps to Mindful Aging

12 Steps to Mindful Aging invites you to reimagine aging as a deeply spiritual and empowering journey. With moving personal journeys, historical vignettes, and spiritual insight, our book is a companion for anyone seeking meaning, renewal, and healing in later life. Each step is a chapter, focused and impactful. Each ends with a question for contemplation and a place for notes.


Introducing Virtual 12 Steps to Mindful Aging Wisdom Circles

Our Wisdom Circles offer a new way to explore the experience of growing older—not through another lecture about aging, but through conversation, reflection and shared wisdom. In these two-hour virtual gatherings, Patricia and Marguerite draw from 12 Steps to Mindful Aging to introduce thought-provoking ideas, stories of inspiring role models and questions that invite participants to reflect on their own lives.Limited to approximately 15 participants, each Wisdom Circle is intentionally small, creating space for everyone who wishes to contribute. The goal is not to tell people how to age, but to bring older adults together to discover what they already know, what they can learn from one another and how they might approach the years ahead with greater intention, strength and peace.


12 Steps to Mindful Aging by
Marguerite Herrmann Sexton &
Patricia Herrmann Conroy


Meet our Mindful Aging Heroes

Step 1 (Chapter 1): Accept the changes of aging, while understanding there is inherent dignity in the aging process.

Maggie Kuhn said, "Old age is strength and survivorship, a triumph over all kinds of vicissitudes, trials, and disappointments.

Step 2 (Chapter 2): Identify your own Source of Wisdom and trust its intelligence.

Dr. Yvonne Kaye provides support for individuals coping with grief and addiction. Her approach is characterized by compassion, intelligence, and, when appropriate, even a dose of humor.

Step 3 (Chapter 3): Rely upon your source of wisdom to sustain you.

Jane Goodall, conservationist and activist, recalls mystical moments when she unexpectedly experienced
moments of awe that made her realize that science cannot explain everything.

Step 4 (Chapter 4): Honor the complexities of your past experiences, forgive yourself and then others.

Marguerite's journey has been affected by significant grief and loss, especially the sudden death of her beloved son, Ron. Navigating loss is one of the greatest challenges in the later stages of life.

Step 5 (Chapter 5): Share these complexities with a trusted companion.

Patricia moved away from her lifelong hometown and took a risk. She reached out to a long-ago neighborhood friend who now lived nearby. They have since become close, trusted friends.

Step 6 (Chapter 6): Accept your experiences without judgment and expect to be safely led by your Source of Wisdom.

Charna, a vibrant leader of her over-65 community, shows self-awareness and composure in familiar moments of forgetfulness, signaling for patience, smiling, and moving on without apology.

Step 7 (Chapter 7): Be confident that your Source of Wisdom will empower you with the strength and courage to fully embrace your present reality.

Fred Rogers, known to the world as Mister Rogers, used television to provide and teach unconditional love to his young viewers.

Step 8 (Chapter 8): Reflect upon the goodness of people in your life, those from the past and those around you now.

Joanne Bland: A child of the Civil Rights Movement of the Sixties, she never forgot the elders who led the way so that she, in turn, could lead and educate others.

Step 9 (Chapter 9): Express gratitude to those people, wherever possible.

At the 1936 Berlin Olympics, German athlete Luz Long encouraged American Jesse Owens, who won four gold medals, including the long jump over Long—defying Hitler’s racist showcase.

Step 10 (Chapter 10): Be mindful to care for your physical and mental well-being and seek support when you need it.

Sentenced to prison at 18, Felix Risotto spent 26 years incarcerated. After receiving physical, emotional, and spiritual support, he was released and now speaks and teaches about restorative justice.

Step 11 (Chapter 11): Cultivate an ongoing relationship with your Source of Wisdom, seeking awareness, honesty and guidance to navigate this sacred time of life.

Boe nakakena Harris, daughter of an Indian boarding school survivor, honors the wisdom of her ancestors by connecting cultures through music, storytelling, and dance.

Step 12 (Chapter 12):
Having experienced the process of attaining deeper peace, seek to model that peace for others.

For more than 70 years, Rita Moreno has broken barriers in entertainment, crediting her longevity to a positive attitude and spreading joy.


Praise for 12 Steps to Mindful Aging

"This insightful 12 Step Meditation is a gentle guide offering light, inspiration and encouragement on a new path to wholeness in later years."
—Maryann C. Volk, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
"What a delightful and meaningful book! The authors, deeply in touch with their own Source of Wisdom, encourage us, their peers, to use these re-imagined 12 Steps as a guide in the final third of our lives. This book is a thoughtful companion for daily reflection."
—Liam Murphy, Assisting Pastor for Spiritual Life and Formation, St. Miriam Old Catholic Parish
"12 Steps to Mindful Aging is a marvelous resource and guide for walking the path of the Elder—with grace, humor, wisdom and joy! As a rabbi and chaplain specializing in engagement with elders, and as an elder myself—delight in the bounty of learning in this little, accessible, powerful book."
—Rabbi Tsurah August


About MargueriteMarguerite Herrmann Sexton is the visionary founder of Journeys of the Heart, an independent, non-denominational ceremonial ministry established in 1996.After the death of her son, Ron Silberstein, in 2015, when she was 72, Marguerite created GriefWarrior: Life After Loss, a blog offering support and solidarity to
those experiencing the profound grief of losing a child. She later founded Moms Rising Together, a support group for grieving mothers.
Marguerite and her husband, Tom, live at the Philadelphia Protestant Home (PPH), where she is an active community organizer. She has initiated programs including Indigenous Peoples Day and Get Out the Vote events.An associate of the Medical Mission Sisters in Fox Chase, Marguerite has a longstanding commitment to service and social justice. Several of the sisters live at PPH, and she advocates for them when they need their voices amplified.Above all, Marguerite believes we are born to live in joy. She creates community wherever she goes and rarely misses an opportunity to sing, dance or laugh. In her late seventies, during the COVID pandemic, and with the help of her son, Joe, she created a rap video of “Alexander Hamilton,” which can still be found on YouTubeMarguerite stays engaged with current events and is a social media influencer.

About PatriciaPatricia Herrmann Conroy is a writer, avid reader, birdwatcher, and lifelong observer of the world around her. Her writing often explores nature, family, friendship, and the experience of growing older with intention and curiosity.She shares her nature photography and reflections on her blog Birds’n’Words, where she hopes to offer a little tranquility in an often anxious world.Patricia is intentional about aging mindfully. She values an active lifestyle and can usually be found at the Phoenixville YMCA five mornings a week. She and her husband Paul do strength training three mornings, and Patricia joins about 25 vibrant women for water aerobics the other two mornings. To keep her mind active, she began piano lessons this past year and recently joined a small group of friends learning Mah Jongg.She is a member of Scribe Sisters, a Phoenixville-based women’s writing group, where she enjoys the friendship, encouragement, and inspiration of other writers.Patricia is a member of Abington Friends Meeting of the Religious Society of Friends. She and her husband, Paul, live in Phoenixville, PA.

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